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Formal and colloquial NVC

August 20, 2008

I am excited ant the distinction between Formal and colloquial NVC (Dan mentioned it tody over lunch) & I have followed up on it.

I get into the bind about the formal stuff I teach in the Intentional Dialogue. Of course it can be used colloquially, ionfomally.

I think though that the formal dialogue is needed, perhaps as a guide to a mopre integrated clean communication.

The dialogue is a discipline and I think the psyche needs that structure to go deep. To go fast.



August 19, 2008

The medium is the message, and language is foul! Marshall Rosenberg calls it Jackal language. Cognitive Behaviour therapy and Rational Emotive therapy, Imago as well as Marshall Rosenberg’s NVC non violent Communication all focus on what I am calling Clean Speech. Both in sending & receiving.

Embedded in our language are the forces of domination! It makes sense. The power structures of domination build a system of ideology to support them and the place for thoise controls to hide are in the cultue in many ways – and almost invisibly in the language. Changing language is potent!

Being non-exclusive in language has made a difference. Look at how we had to deal with the way he meant she in English, I say had, but the fight is not over, but we have come a long way.

Not so with language of love… all day in my work as a relationship therapist I listen to language that attributes blame to the other. The dicipline of the Imago dialogue is great, it handles a lot of it, but there is lots more to develop. This is a science.

What I have not heard anyone say, though they may have, is that “clean speech” is another road to the unconscious. So often the CBT and RET schools deny the efficacy of the relationship as a tool for healing and of the power of the unconscious. Clean speech is essentially to speak from experience, and to uncover its layers. To make the unconscious conscious… in a relationship! Clean speech is a way of working with the transference & counter transference.


Rosenberg Naturally Nonviolent

QUESTION: What is nonviolent communication?

ANSWER: It’s the way of thinking, communicating and using power that helps us connect to one another in a way that we enjoy contributing to one another’s well-being. It’s an attempt to live in harmony with certain values. But since we’ve been educated for about 8,000 years in domination structures, that does not make contributing to one another’s well-being easy.

Great interview with Marshall Rosenberg

If I’m in conflict with people, I try to hear what needs they have. Now, “needs,” as we define the term, are universal; all human beings have the same needs. So if I connect to what people are needing, I’m one with them. I care about their needs. At the moment that they sense that I am as interested in their needs as my own, we can find a way to get everybody’s needs met.

So more concretely, what would that look like? This man might say, “Our work is not going to harm the environment. Our tests have demonstrated that this is not going to harm the environment.” So, this person shares the same needs that I have. I want to protect the environment. Apparently, he’s concerned about the environment also.

Now, where we might differ is in our ways of measuring whether something is harmful to the environment. But notice our needs are not in conflict. This person doesn’t want to destroy someone’s habitat, and he doesn’t want to be a menace. You see?

More excerpts follow.


Temporary New theme

August 28, 2007

Just while I help with another website I am trying a new theme here.

Playing with some images to go with Kubrick.  This is the Psychodrama “encounter” symbol, not sure of its exact origins.

Here is the one that is 215 x 150 the rubrick requirement:

encounter rubrick

More interesting would be a wider banner something like this:


I am putting some of these explorations up as sketches: Thousand Sketches

My other website & blog -Thousand Sketches

September 20, 2006

ThousandSketches: Gum

Digital sketch by Walter Logeman Australian Gumtree paint texture

I’m doing a thousand in a year.

It is – I have realised – a Psybernet project – I am exploring the psyche in cyberspace – in images.

The year & the 1000 create a crucible for the incredible achemical process I am in with this. 

Nice Sketches

August 27, 2006

FREEHAND:  R Chun’s blog where these sketches are.

Rather nice sketches in flickr too.  He has paintings on ebay, but I like the sketches.

freehand sketchbook drawing

moleskine drawings

The inventor of the web speaks out to protect his creation!

June 23, 2006

timbl’s blog | Decentralized Information Group (DIG) Breadcrumbs:

When I invented the Web, I didn’t have to ask anyone’s permission. Now, hundreds of millions of people are using it freely. I am worried that that is going end in the USA.

He puts it really well, he can see that there is a fundamental human right about neutrality of access.


April 18, 2006

Kubrick at Binary Bonsai . This one was linked to from the Kubrick theme page. While on the subject of Kubrick, we saw "Eyes Wide Shut" the other day, a friend recommended it for its "Jungian" aspect. Makes sense, the two protagonists are exploring a similar synchronous path, one in RL or Waking Life and the other in dreams.

Stanley Kubrick

The Kubrick Site & IMDB More Kubrick, and we did more too, got out Paths Of Glory, but did not really like it much. Got that from here: Movieshack – Library.

I am enjoying the tags here

December 25, 2005
LibraryThing | Catalog your books online

Not sure how I can really best use this site. Interesting to note there are 84 others who have

A History of God: The 4,000-Year Quest of Judaism, Christianity and Islam

Maybe, there is a connection thing here that can happen?

Expect More Posts!

December 25, 2005
One, it is holidays and I may have a bit more time.
Two, this tool (which I heard about from Scoble – interestingly) looks good:
Performancing for Firefox |
I am editing this post in a Blog This! type interface but nicer. Or is it? At first go, and this is it, it seems nice – what If I want to post an image?

Not bad!
and how about my quoting?

Performancing for Firefox is a full featured blog editor that sits right within Firefox. Just hit F8 or click the little pencil icon at the bottom right to bring up the blog editor and easily post to your WordPress, MovableType or Blogger blogs.


Let’s see how it looks?
Later, Not bad, and the HTML was easy to tweak later too.

The Lorenz Attractor, a thing of beauty

December 12, 2005

The Lorenz Attractor, a thing of beauty:
And a testemony to how our use of symbols, language really can tune into such phenomena when this:

“dx / dt = a (y – x)
dy / dt = x (b – z) – y
dz / dt = xy – c z”

Can equate this:


The site also shows how twins become one.

Changing the world

December 11, 2005

Josh is deeply committed and involved in this organisation: International Socialist Organization

Echo Radio

December 11, 2005

I am figuring out how RSS works on my site. If I add an MP3 will it come up in my FeedDemon Reader as linked to an OPLM attachment? I doubt it.

Here is a link to a Dutch podcast from Christchurch:
Echo Radio – week 50 11-12-2005

Good to hear what is self evident as I work in this field.

November 15, 2005

Dominican Today: “London. Therapy for mildly depressed patients delivered over the Internet can be as effective as face-to-face psychotherapy, but experts said that a relationship of trust must exist between patient and doctor for the treatments to take hold. “

M200 setup on the desk

November 14, 2005

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M200 setup on the desk

Thats the Toshiba M200 in the docking stand. The other screen is a Philips 170b and it is setup as one contiguous screen.

That way I have my MindMap open with the guides and inspiration for my work on the right, and the work on the screen infront of me.

At any momnent I can grab the Tablet – while still docked and use it with the pen.

Or I can hot-lift & go downstairs with it.

I am enjoying it!

(This entry is lifted straight off my flickr site)

Flickr: Photos tagged with mindmaps or mindmap

September 14, 2005

Flickr Photos tagged with mindmaps or mindmap

Mind Mapping

September 14, 2005

I have been using MindManager after hearing about it on the G’day World podcast.


I can’t wait to see more of these maps on blogs and on flickr

There is a free Mind Map Viewer , and a gallery of maps I wish there was a free basic map creator tool.

I am loving it! It is Web 2.0 for the personal PC, everything is xml and links together.

It is too MS orientated for me, though I can export fine to OOo (Word mode) and it is now my preferred way of writing a doc!

It will open photos from flickr right in a Map. It will open up RSS feeds in a map and use the Topic Notes to read them.

I will be writing more about this but the main thing will be that it is a new integrated:

  • Browser
  • File Manager
  • Word Processor
  • Contact Manager
  • To Do List


Can sinc with Windows Mobile



John Markoff Podcasts

September 8, 2005

IT Conversations: John Markoff (Part 1 of 2) – SDForum Distinguished Speaker Series Great discussion based around the history of computing as put forward in a book by John Markoff: What the Dormouse Said: How the 60s Counterculture Shaped the Personal Computer.

This is a great two part podcast! Listening to it I hear some geniuses time are there talking about an incredible revolution in communication. Many of the people I have blogged about there in the past get a mention – and are there! Doug Englebart is one. Ivan Illich gets a mentionI

This podcasts takes me back to the 60s and I realise how much that counterculture influenced me at the time. It must have been through the Whole Earth Catalogue that I found Illich – and that led to Four Avenues – School Without Walls. It is through this sort of thing that I feel a connection with the nostalgia that comes through in this history.

I really liked the comment that one speaker makes: “We need a Pedagogy of Interactive Media” – wow. I have a real enthusiasm for that. In a way this blog is about that – a psychology of interactive media – my “psyber-” is related and a prerequisite for the pedagogy. A pedagogy can’t be designed without a psychology.

So, I am deeply attuned to the discussions in this podcast and delighted to see how computing emerged in its origins not out of the money culture but the counterculture – people trying to make the world a better place is the key motivation I hear in this podcast. I recommend it.

Albert Ellis

August 28, 2005

village voice > people > The Interview by Rachel Aviv

Many of your books include charts, questionnaires and equations, which show readers how to more efficiently deal with their unhappiness. Are there dangers in seeing deep mental processes as a formula?
It’s not a formula. It’s several different formulas. I encourage USA, Unconditional Self Acceptance. I accept me, myself, my personality, whether or not I do well. I prefer to do well, but I don’t put my worth on the line. And I accept youwith your [cough attack] stupidity and failingswhether or not you do well. And I accept life, which is bad, without demanding that it be exactly the way I want it to be. I avoid the words ‘should,’ ‘ought’ and ‘must.

As much as I think that CBT, RET or whatever they call it these days is the enemy of the soul and healing (even though “research” shows it is “effective”), my heart goes out to this old bugger. No doubt he is a spunky genius! I like this interview and saved a copy to txt.

Bookmark roll

August 23, 2005

Got this here. It should now apprear somewhere on the right as My


August 2, 2005

We use words to create structures between the real and nothing at all. They impact on the real. We invent them, but the invention has to stick, words are at the mercy of the collective.

Word making, shaping the metaxy, has taken a new turn with tags. Nothing will be the same again.

Folksonomy, tagging will change everything.