August 19, 2008

The medium is the message, and language is foul! Marshall Rosenberg calls it Jackal language. Cognitive Behaviour therapy and Rational Emotive therapy, Imago as well as Marshall Rosenberg’s NVC non violent Communication all focus on what I am calling Clean Speech. Both in sending & receiving.

Embedded in our language are the forces of domination! It makes sense. The power structures of domination build a system of ideology to support them and the place for thoise controls to hide are in the cultue in many ways – and almost invisibly in the language. Changing language is potent!

Being non-exclusive in language has made a difference. Look at how we had to deal with the way he meant she in English, I say had, but the fight is not over, but we have come a long way.

Not so with language of love… all day in my work as a relationship therapist I listen to language that attributes blame to the other. The dicipline of the Imago dialogue is great, it handles a lot of it, but there is lots more to develop. This is a science.

What I have not heard anyone say, though they may have, is that “clean speech” is another road to the unconscious. So often the CBT and RET schools deny the efficacy of the relationship as a tool for healing and of the power of the unconscious. Clean speech is essentially to speak from experience, and to uncover its layers. To make the unconscious conscious… in a relationship! Clean speech is a way of working with the transference & counter transference.


Rosenberg Naturally Nonviolent

QUESTION: What is nonviolent communication?

ANSWER: It’s the way of thinking, communicating and using power that helps us connect to one another in a way that we enjoy contributing to one another’s well-being. It’s an attempt to live in harmony with certain values. But since we’ve been educated for about 8,000 years in domination structures, that does not make contributing to one another’s well-being easy.

Great interview with Marshall Rosenberg

If I’m in conflict with people, I try to hear what needs they have. Now, “needs,” as we define the term, are universal; all human beings have the same needs. So if I connect to what people are needing, I’m one with them. I care about their needs. At the moment that they sense that I am as interested in their needs as my own, we can find a way to get everybody’s needs met.

So more concretely, what would that look like? This man might say, “Our work is not going to harm the environment. Our tests have demonstrated that this is not going to harm the environment.” So, this person shares the same needs that I have. I want to protect the environment. Apparently, he’s concerned about the environment also.

Now, where we might differ is in our ways of measuring whether something is harmful to the environment. But notice our needs are not in conflict. This person doesn’t want to destroy someone’s habitat, and he doesn’t want to be a menace. You see?

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August 17, 2008

Thanks Dan for the link! It helps me feel not so bad about my podcasts! Like I need to move through the awkward phase.

And for good measure here is the song from the movie (again)


Afghanistan – not a good war – gathering some info.

August 12, 2008

I am figuring out why the hell we, New Zealand is in Afghanistan. Why it seems almost secret that we are there. Why Obama wants to escalate the war. Some links in no particular order.

By any measure, a military “victory” in Afghanistan is simply not possible. The only viable alternative is to begin direct negotiations with the Taliban, and to draw in regional powers with a stake in the outcome: Iran, Pakistan, Russia, Turkmenistan, Tajikistan, China, and India.

But to do so will require abandoning our “story” about the Afghan conflict as a “good war.” In this new millennium, there are no good wars.

Look at this link if you have a good stomach for atrocity.

Phil Goff 2005 on why we are there – he calls it Peace keeping – sounds like double talk to me. The news today about civilian deaths.

Wikipedia summary

I was hoping to find more from the Greens. Its all a bit stale, and the upshot is that our involment is a token. there is this. And Keith Lock’s original opposition to the war in 2001. And his comments on rebellion of the New Zealand SAS make interesting reading! Here, and here.

Ok, it may be that New Zealand can keep out of the worst of it, but it is there alonside an invader. The are complicit even if the SAS has rebelled. I wonder what the deeper story is – who rebelled, what do they say now?

Scoop has a recent Govt press release.

Amnesty notes torture by US

Gwynne Dyer: Afghanistan – A war won and lost London Journalist via the New Zealand Herald – also last years, but has some analysis.


August 12, 2008

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Google forms – what are they like?

July 30, 2008

I have filled out a few here & there, but want to make one!

Later: It would not embed for some reason.

However the spreadsheet collection of data is great!

Here is a link to it on the Google site.

Online Therapy Research Study

July 24, 2008

Kristie Holmes has a site: Online Therapy Research Study

She has a recent pdf of useful resources and current literature.

I appreciate the effort, thanks Kristie.


This literature, and in the online therapy field there is so much diversity. There is diversity of helping profession: Social Work, counselling, career, health and specific mental illness focused approaches, from a variety of professions.

My own sphere of psychotherapy is poorly represented online. Psychotherapy is relationship based as works with the unconscious. Perhaps many psychotherapists believe it can’t be done online. When I google the following line:

“psychotherapy online” unconscious relationship

The first two results point to my own site. There are only 112 other sites. When I check the next few sites only one other one offers psychotherapy online, and the modality seems to be solution focused cognitive therapy, which is similar in some ways to my work, but significantly different, to a more psychodynamic approach with awareness of the “here & now” psychotherapeutic alliance.

From an online perspective the diversity broadens out, as there are so many different ways of working online. What is the therapeutic container for the work? Some therapists mix online and f2f, others use scheduled times for chat or video, some use email. Payment varies from by hour to “subscriptions”. I use email only as a therapeutic frame, as the “stage”. I do not make appointments, but use the asynchronicity of the Internet to make use of time in an optimum way. I charge by the hour. These decisions about method online have their roots in my psychotherapy principles and in the way I approach the psyche.

I wonder how useful reseach can be in such a diverse world?

I intend to hang-in there with this question, as some overview of this work is needed.

Psyberspace Podcast – Reviews & reflections on success gurus

May 21, 2008

A mix of stuff in this 35 min podcast.

Click to play, right click to download
Psyberspace Podcast 19 May 2008

Review: Digital Art Studio – Techniques for combining Inkjet Printing with traditional media Amazon

Reflection: “limited editions” in the digital medium.

Review: The Brief Wonderous life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz. Loved it. Amazon

Review: New Dimensions Podcast – Innovate Like Edison

This is followed by some thoughts about success gurus.





Psyberspace Podcast – the role of the therapist in couple work

May 15, 2008

For Imago colleagues

Tight Structure
Seamless flow
Recent shift

Four developments in my work:

a – bcr structured couple therapy – no dialogue
b – refining a topic
c – analysis of the dynamics to facilitate dialogue
d – coaching re: thoughts & feelings

Click to play, right click to download
Psyberspace Podcast 2008-05015

Click to listen, right-click to download or better still subscribe to this blog in a reader and you can easily see which posts have audio attached, and then put them on your player.

New Dimensions audio

May 12, 2008

Bought & download these four items.
Will review any I like later.


Guest: Steven Vedro
Program #3235


Guest: Michael Gelb
Program #3234

Host: Michael Toms
Interview Date: 1/8/2008


Guest: J. Ruth Gendler
Program #3232

Host: Justine Willis Toms
Interview Date: 12/6/2007

Media: MP3 Download


Guest: David Loye
Program #3230

Host: Michael Toms
Interview Date: 12/3/2007

Podcast – Psyberspace – Relationship

May 10, 2008

Psyberspace, this blog, occasionally has audio I make. Occasionally. Rarely.

Here is a ten minute one, I called it relationship, but it is about one small sliver of thought about listening to your partner.

Podcast – Psyberspace – Relationship

Right click to download. Or click to listen.

PanGea Day

May 6, 2008

PanGea Day

Listen to Katheryn Ryan interview

May 10

Pangea Day

Later: Saturday, 10 May, 2008

It seems my woosh “broadband” is not fast enough for this. A set-top box (HD) is NZD 480 so is this freeview thing worth it? is now the time?


How to end Psychotherapy

March 23, 2008

60 Percent Of Psychotherapy Clients Felt Therapy Didn’t End On Time

This article makes sense to me from my experience.

Time is such a critical factor in psychotherapy, beginnings, middles and especially endings. People often want to wean off therapy by coming les frequently. I discourage that and suggest we make a focus & work on a good ending. Even so there are false endings! People come back for another go at it.

In Psychotherapy Online my experience is different. I have a more flexible time frame for “appointments”, while I stick to a maximum of one hour sessions for my email responses, the work can also be spread out in smaller exchanges and because I don’t need to make calendar appointments for email work there is a flexibility that finds its way into making a more natural ending as well.

In general, clients who reported that termination was on time were more satisfied with their therapy. Factors contributing to positive feelings about termination included perceiving the experience of termination as an expression of independence, reflection of positive aspects of the therapeutic relationship and a reflection of positive gains experienced in therapy.

“Results suggest that clients find terminating psychotherapy at the right time important and yet difficult to achieve, and that clients experience a wide range of feelings, many positive, during the termination phase, which call for a reconceptualization of the role of the therapist during this important phase of psychotherapy.”

Exitential Psychotherapy – Yallom

March 22, 2008>Online version of the book.

I have been given a copy of the 1980 hard copy and it is on the top of my reading list at last.

The Seven Laws of Money

March 21, 2008

I recall this book from a Whole Earth Catalogue, the summary here is enough I imagine, seems good stuff to me.

The Seven Laws of Money


The following laws were published in 1977 in ‘Seven laws of Money’ by Mike Phillips. Mike, a Bank of America banker, was instrumental in developing Master Charge.

1. Do it! Money will come when you are doing the right thing. The first law is the hardest for most people to accept and is the source of the most distress. The clearest translation of this in terms of personal advice is “go ahead and do what you want to do.” Worry about your ability to do it and competence to do it, but certainly do not worry about the money.

2. Money has its own rules: records, budgets, savings, borrowing. The rules of money are probably Ben Franklin-type rules, such as never squander it, don’t be a spendthrift, be very careful, you have to account for what you’re doing, you must keep track of it, and you can never ignore what happens to money.

3. Money is a dream – a fantasy as alluring as the Pied Piper. Money is very much a state of mind. It’s much like the states of consciousness that you see on an acid trip… It is fantasy in itself, purely a dream. People who go after it as though it were real and tangible, say a person who is trying to earn a hundred- thousand dollars, orient their lives and end up in such a way as to have been significantly changed simply to have reached that goal. They become part of that object and since the object is a dream ( a mirage) they become quite different from what they set out to be.

4. Money is a nightmare – in jail, robbery, fears of poverty. I am not expressing a moral judgment. I am making very clear something that many people aren’t conscious of: among the people we punish, the people we have to take out of society, 80% or more are people who are unable to deal with money. Money is also a nightmare when looked at from the opposite perspective – from the point of view of people who have inherited a lot of money. The western dream is to have a lot of money, and then you can lead a life of leisure and happiness. Nothing in my experience could be further from the truth.

5. You can never give money away. Looked at over a period of time, money flows in certain channels, like electricity through wires. The wires define the relationship, and the flow is the significant thing to look at. The fifth law of money suggests that by looking at the gift in a larger or longer-term perspective, we will see that it is part of a two-way flow.

6. You can never really receive money as a gift. Money is either borrowed or lent or possibly invested. It is never given or received without those concepts implicit in it. Giving money requires some payment; if it’s not repaid the nightmare elements enter into it. A gift of money is really a contract; it’s really a repayable loan, and it requires performance and an accounting of performance that is satisfactory to the giver.

7. There are worlds without money. They are the worlds of art, poetry, music, dance, sex, etc. the essentials of human life. The seventh law is like a star that is your guide. You know that you cannot live on the star; it is not physically a part of your life, but rather an aid to orientation. You are not going to reach this star, but in some sense neither are you going to reach your destination without it to guide you.

The relationship tag

February 5, 2008

XFN 1.1 profile

Create: Here

Kate Tapley

Now will Operator see this?


Hmmm, makes little sense to me yet as the embedded rel=”spouse” does not show anywhere.

I have also Used XFN as built into WordPress for Kate’s Horse Trek Blog in the Blogroll, again I can’t see how it shows anywhere.

Where is this heading?


February 2, 2008

Here is my hCard – that is my address details in a Microformat created here. If you have the Operator add-on for Firefox it will give you options of things you can do with this, such as import it into your contacts.

Why am looking into this?

I’d like to make an Art Net using microformats …. ask me more if you are interested.

Walter Logeman


PO BOX 13 543


New Zealand

+643 377 1206

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Family News: Becs and Gebz are getting Married

January 14, 2008

Hello world! « Becs and Gebz are getting Married

Cyberculture Site

January 14, 2008

RCCS: Introducing Cyberculture

Looking Backwards, Looking Forward: Cyberculture Studies 1990-2000

© David Silver, Media Studies, University of San Francisco

Originally published in Web.studies: Rewiring Media Studies for the Digital Age, edited by David Gauntlett (Oxford University Press, 2000): 19-30.

While still an emerging field of scholarship, the study of cyberculture flourished throughout the last half of the 1990s, as witnessed in the countless monographs and anthologies published by both academic and popular presses, and the growing number of papers and panels presented at scholarly conferences from across the disciplines and around the world. Significantly, the field of study has developed, formed, reformed, and transformed, adding new topics and theories when needed, testing new methods when applicable.

Psychotherapy Online

December 19, 2007

Psychotherapy Online

I have just updated my psychotherapy online page. Just a tweak here or there, but it is amazing how I want to change it just a little every few months.

I added the words: dream, Jung, Psychodrama and Moreno to my first page. These words sum up my special interests and skill, so the should be there!

Zeitgeist – a swing to art, beauty & truth?

December 15, 2007

Zeitgeist. Time ghost. Spirit of the times. What is going on?

I was in tune with the Zeitgeist while going on marches in 1968-9. I was in tune with the Zeitgeist in 1969-70 when I was going into communal living and alternative schools. And again with personal growth all through the 80s. Psychodrama groups, and psychotherapy. And in the very early 90s setting up Psybernet as an online enterprise, I could see the era looming, (sadly I was out of sync with monetising my insight) I have loved being experientially involved in a world changing era.

I am curious about my current interested in art & creativity?

Am I sniffing something that is in the air?

I am curious… what do you think, is it time for a reaction against the pragmatic, quick, efficient, functional business like era we have been in? Is there a swing to art, beauty & truth?

They say that the … genius is always ahead of his time. True, but
only because he’s so thoroughly of his time.

Henry Miller, Preface to The Subterraneans,
by Jack kerouac, 1959

We don’t know who discovered water, but we know it wasn’t the fish.

The past went that-a-way. When faced with a totally new situation, we tend always to attach ourselves to the objects, to the flavor of the most recent past. We look at the present through a rear view mirror. We march backwards into the future.

The poet, the artist, the sleuth – whoever sharpens our perception tends to be anti-social; rarely “well-adjusted”, he cannot go along with currents and trends. A strange bond often exists among anti-social types in their power to see environments as they really are.

What we call art would seem to be specialist artifacts for enhancing human perception.

Marshall McLuhan